Dear Heartbroken & Poly

You love with abandon, yes. But it doesn’t mean that you are not discerning about who you give your heart to. You may have more than one significant romantic relationship and yet you grieve a breakup just as much as your monogamous friends. It’s so hard to lose a lover. The person with whom you’ve shared your most intimate self, whose values and perspectives align with yours, is no longer a central part of your life.  Even though you are dating other people, you miss them and the space they held in your life.

You’re tender-hearted and hopeful. You want the connection between you and your intimate partners to be expansive. What could that look like? Like you and your anchor sitting around a kitchen table drinking coffee with your metamours. Or you feeling compersion instead of jealousy as you listen to your partner get excited about someone they recently started dating. Or you realizing that, in having more than one amorous connection, you feel more love and desire (and feel more loved and desired) than ever.

I would love to help you honor and heal these unresolved losses. Let’s also distill together what love looks and feels like for you. In doing so we can craft a relationship vision that will help strengthen your connection with current and future partners.

I’m here to support you. Reach out today.