Gentle words from me to you, to help you love yourself. 

Love Notes to My Clients

Two people stand in front of a window display, facing toward each other. They hang their heads down, shoulders slumped, not making eye contact. There are a few feet of distance between them.

You met at the beginning of the pandemic, and, when you decided to quarantinetogether, it felt like your relationship was fated. You got close with your partner soquickly! You may have never felt this safe in love before. Perhaps the universe thatyou two created felt idyllic. For a moment you could believe that it would […]

November 28, 2022

Dear Lover Letting Go of Love

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You love with abandon, yes. But it doesn’t mean that you are not discerning about who you give your heart to. You may have more than one significant romantic relationship and yet you grieve a breakup just as much as your monogamous friends. It’s so hard to lose a lover. The person with whom you’ve […]

May 6, 2022

Dear Heartbroken & Poly

A masculine presenting person with short, dark hair covers his face with tattooed hands. His facial features are not visible, but his forehead is wrinkled with worry or concern. The background of the photo is dark black, against his gray shirt in the foreground.

You’re certain that you once felt called to this work as a healer. Maybe you can no longer recall exactly why. This place in the world where you once envisioned feeling inspired and fulfilled now drains you more often than not. It’s hard to tell if you were naive then or are jaded now. Is […]

April 7, 2022

Dear Wounded Healer

A masculine presenting person of color sits on a red metal park bench, facing the viewer. They have a gray afro, an undercut, and gray facial hair. They are wearing bright red glasses, a tie-dyed shirt and pants, and black sneakers. They sit comfortably, with legs stacked up on the armrests and seat of the bench, and their own arms rest on each leg.

Were you aware that there is a specific timeline that dictates when you’re supposed to come out? Actually, there’s not. You are not late, behind, or delayed. It’s hard, though, right? In the incarnation of yourself that you left behind you had what you thought was security (maybe even a marriage). But you felt compelled to be true to yourself […]

April 7, 2022

Dear “Late Bloomer”

Two feminine presenting partners stand together in the middle of a room, with backs to the viewer, as they smile at each other, noses almost touching. The partner with shoulder-length blonde hair stands on the right with their arms wrapped around their partner's waist. The partner on the left has dark, shaved hair, and holds herself in a standing position by wrapping her right arm around her partner's shoulders.

What Your Partner Wishes You Knew: How much they still desire you yet they don’t want to put an additional burden on you. It makes them feel selfish to ask for physical affection. How unfair they think it is that this has happened to you both. Sometimes they can’t sleep because they’re so worried about […]

April 7, 2022

Dear Couple Navigating Intimacy & Chronic Illness